In life, people will always ask you, “Are you looking for a partner? Do you have a boyfriend?”
“not yet.”
No way, that can’t be…
Actually, that’s true. It’s not that no one pursues me or no one wants me, it’s just that there aren’t any suitable ones. It’s not that I have high standards or many requirements, it’s just that I haven’t found anyone I feel a connection with.
Sometimes I want to be in a relationship, to stop being lonely, but that person isn’t there! I don’t want to fall in love so easily.
Sometimes when I calm down, I find my stubbornness ridiculous. Why not fall in love? Why stay single? Have I fallen in love with loneliness and solitude?
Actually, that’s not the case, because there’s a kind of single life called “better to be single than in a bad relationship”.
Such people are very devoted and persistent in love, have their own unique thoughts, and can stick to their own opinions; in the vast sea of people, they only want to find someone who catches their eye, which may seem foolish to others, but this foolishness is just to be true to their own heart; they allow themselves to be lonely and solitary rather than casually fall in love with someone; they don’t believe in the illusion that 500 glances in a past life are needed to exchange for a single brush in this life, because fate is not that great, and what they want is just a feeling.
I won’t fall in love easily; I don’t want to deceive others, nor do I want to deceive my own heart. Love is pure and mutual, but once I meet “the one,” I will persevere, commit my heart, and never be unfaithful; I will love wholeheartedly.
Everyone has their own image of their other half in their heart. Even if you’ve managed to find your other half, isn’t there someone else in your heart besides him? You also have longings for your other half, hoping that your meeting will be a romantic and beautiful encounter; hoping that he is your Prince Charming or Snow White, but you won’t indulge in such fairytale fantasies. You just want that real encounter that belongs to you. You won’t be obsessed with princes or princesses. You just want your other half. You just want to find someone who understands you and is willing to accompany you.
When you finally meet “the one,” you’ll definitely set boundaries for each other in your relationship, and you won’t easily cross them. You’ll respect love, respect feelings, and respect each other. You won’t start a relationship casually, but once you do, you’ll be the people who cherish life the most. Because they believe in love, they believe in romance.
When I meet someone who likes me but I don’t reciprocate, I politely say, “I’m sorry, we’re not a good match.” Respecting my own feelings is also respecting others’ feelings; it prevents them from wasting my time. If they feel we can be friends, of course I’d be happy to. But changing my mind is impossible! Because they won’t easily compromise unless you’re “the one.”
Some friends say that the “better to have none than a bad one” mentality is no longer popular in today’s society; it should be “better to have a lot than to have none.” That might be true, but I don’t want to change! I don’t want to love as easily as others, to easily avoid loneliness, and to feel no sadness when one relationship after another ends. Because those people have never truly loved; to be precise, they don’t understand love at all. They easily give their feelings, easily develop feelings for others, and don’t persistently pursue the one they truly desire. Compared to those who believe in “better to have a lot than to have none,” they are more realistic and better at protecting themselves in relationships because they don’t know the pain of a breakup; they have never truly invested in love.
People who believe “better to have nothing than something bad” are different. They will try to maintain a relationship for as long as possible, even if they are very sad, painful, and heartbroken when it ends. But they have given their all and will not regret it. Love that leaves a deep impression requires waiting patiently, even if it takes many years or a lifetime!
Loneliness does not necessarily mean unhappiness;
What you gain may not last;
Losing something doesn’t necessarily mean you’ll never have it again…
